Jay Gatsby as the Magician Great Gatsby EssaysJay Gatsby as the Magician in The Great Gatsby Magicians are known for the tricks that they play on the eyes. What often seems like magic, turns out to be just a careful flick of the wrist. In the book The Great Gatsby, by F. Scott Fitzerald, the magician is compared to the character of Jay Gatsby. The magician motif is used among other tools to prove that appearance is not always reality.
The higher class throws sophisticated and glamorous parties that include many interesting people. They have fun and show off their fortunes with the grand affairs. Jay Gatsby is described as a rich, powerful man, and mysterious man, but all his fortune is made for a simple cause, the love of the beautiful Daisy Fay Buchanan. He is compared to a magician because he gives an appearance of being in a higher class than he really belongs to.
Gatsby strives to appear to be high class, but reality ends up hurting him hard in the end. Gatsby’s money was not earned legally or inherited as a fortune from his great uncle, but was made through illegal schemes. Gatsby’s goal is to try to seem to be in a higher social class than the class where his birthright put him. He creates the illusion of a higher stature. He does not care about the money or any other material wealth.
He cares about the love of a woman. Gatsby makes many illusions in hopes of showing his Daisy that he is in a class as high as hers and that they do belong together. What a magician does is deceive his audience. Jay Gatsby has to do that to make his audience believe that he belongs to a higher class than he was really born into. The word “great” is often used to announce a magician. The title of the book is the introduction of the character of Jay Gatsby.
He is the great magician that can create magic and fool all the spectators around him. Jay Gatsby throws wonderful parties to give the mirage of great wealth and high class. Only the most interesting people are invited. The thing is that he does not care for the people, but only of what they think of him. He does not show his own face, but gives the impression of someone really lavish by the parties and the guests. At the beginning of the book, Gatsby is seen as a high class, sophisticated man.
As the story goes on, more details and lies of the great man are uncovered by the other characters in the book. It is discovered that Gatsby was not really an “Oxford Man” because he went to Oxford University for only five months. The reason that he went to Oxford was not because he wanted to receive a grand education and improvement of the mind to accompany his high class and stature. Instead he attended the school because the army gave him an opportunity for a free education.
Mysterious, like a magician, no one knows much about the host of the parties. Wild rumors spread about Gatsby because someone rarely comes along who has ever met the man. He is the great magician that is there looking over everyone and knowing who everyone is, but not making himself known to the public. Like as if behind a cape or a cloud of smoke, Gatsby disappears like a magician from Nick’s sight one night.
He stands there majestic on his high white balcony reaching for the stars, for the light. Staring at the stars and dark blue sky, like the coat of a great wizard, becoming lost in the great vastness of the sky, he vanishes. He is there one minute and gone the next. Gatsby disappears again when Daisy comes to visit Nick, by Gatsby’s request. Like magic, he reappears at the door again a few seconds later at the entrance.
In one swift movement he was out of the house and then back at the front door again. As if a magician chained in a tank full of water, Gatsby gets himself out of the unfavorable circumstances with a quick move. In a second he is out onto the stage again when ready to confront his audience. James Gatz was a simple boy that was fortunate enough to get into the graces of a rich man. When given the opportunity of taking his life to higher standards, James Gatz gave himself a new name, a new life, a new future. James Gatz became the man now known as Jay Gatsby.
From his protege, Dan Cody, he got himself some sort of education. From that point on Jay was no longer the penniless boy. He was so poor to the extent that he could not take off his army uniform. Jay did not have the money to afford any civilian clothes. Gatsby had no choice but to become involved in some illegal business dealings to earn enough money to move up the ladder. When Tom gives away the secret of Gatsby’s business to Daisy, he gives away the glory of the “great” Gatsby.
Gatsby kills his image when he starts his business of bootlegging. He brought himself to life like a conjurer who makes doves come out nowhere. When the secret comes out, Gatsby looses all the standing that he has earned in the last five years. Throughout the book, Jay Gatsby is compared to a magician.
Every move that a magician makes is a form of deceit. He makes things appear and disappear. He can be there one minute and be gone the next. Jay Gatsby creates the illusion of being in the high social class when he is really in another. He spends over five years of his life to make people think that he belongs to a higher class.
Gatsby attempts to conceal the ways that he achieves success. He masks the sources of his money to make sure that the deception goes through. Jay Gatsby, like a magician, uses deception to make his dream come true. He appears to be a man of high class, but all it is- is an illusion.
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Analysis Of The Tourism Recovery Plan
The Tourism Authority of Thailand developed the Andaman Tourism Recovery Plan 2005 to manage the crisis caused by the tsunami tidal wave. This natural disaster caused significant damages to six southern provinces in Thailand: Phuket, Phang Nga, Krabi, Ranong, Satun, and Trang. The effects of this tidal wave were felt by local people, tourists, tourism investors, and service providers. Many lost family members, property, and income as a result.
The 6 southern provinces of Thailand, situated along the Andaman coast, are famous for their stunning coasts and pristine natural landscapes. These provinces attract numerous tourists from around the world to Thailand each year, both Thai and foreign visitors. The local residents in these areas primarily depend on selling souvenirs and providing tourism services to sustain their livelihoods.
However, when the unexpected “Tsunami” tidal wave hit, many tourists canceled or delayed their trips to Thailand. This created a bleak outlook for the local people in terms of restoring their businesses and improving their living conditions after the Tsunami. In response, the Andaman Tourism Recovery Plan 2005 was introduced by the Tourism Authority of Thailand. Its objective is to guide all stakeholders towards revitalizing and advancing these 6 southern provinces.
In this report, we will examine the recovery plan and assess the likelihood of achieving success in all processes in line with the objectives established by the Tourism Authority of Thailand.
- Ms. Ajaree Viwatpinyo I.D. 463 9605Ms.Naiyana VongfufeungkajornI.D.
- Objectives-To study the Andaman recovery plan 2005, developed by TAT.
- -To analyze the positive and negative of impact from the recovery plan.
- -To analyze the potential effectiveness of the recovery plan.
- -To criticize the role of concerned organization in order to create the effectiveness of the plan.
The tourism industry in the Andaman coastal provinces of Thailand is currently facing an unforeseen crisis due to the devastating “Tsunami” tidal wave disaster that occurred in 2004. This catastrophe had a significant impact on multiple countries around the Andaman Sea, including six provinces in southern Thailand. The decrease in tourist numbers can be attributed to the lack of clear information regarding the situation in the affected areas. Despite Satun province experiencing only minor damage, numerous tourists decided to cancel their hotel bookings there. Consequently, many resorts, which were originally fully booked by foreign visitors during peak season, have not received any bookings since being affected by the “Tsunami” tidal wave.
The responsibility of developing the Andaman tourism recovery plan 2005 has been given to the TAT. This plan aims to restore the tourism situation in six provinces affected by the Tsunami: Phuket, Phang Nga, Krabi, Trang, Satun, and Ranong. These provinces were once popular tourism destinations until the unexpected attack of the tidal wave. The Andaman recovery plan 2005 was created to revive the prosperity of these destinations and further enhance their appeal for the future. The plan’s summary is as follows:
Initially, the plan was divided into three phases by TAT.
- Phase I – 26 of December 2004 until 15 January 2005.
- Phase II – is shorterm plan which start from January 15 to March 2005
- Phase III – from March 2005 onwards.
Based on Phase I, the affected areas are divided into three categories as follows:
- Areas most affected: which at least one-year recovery effort needs to be taken. These areas are Phi Phi in Krabi and the coastal towns of Tai Muang, Khao lak and Tap lamu in Phang Nga.
- Areas moderately affected: which should take between 3-6 months to recovery. These areas are beach resorts in Phuket: Kata, Karon, Kamara, Nai Yang and Patong.
- Minimal impact or unaffected areas: which only very little recovery or even non-recovery is required. These areas are Trang, Mukoh Tapu and Ko Panyi island in Phang Nga, Ao Maya bay area, Phuket city centre, cape panwa, Coral reefs off the islands in Krabi and in Trang are Koh Tarutao, Koh Khai, Koh Adang, Koh Rawi, Koh Leepeh and Koh Bulon appeared unaffected. Beaches and coral reefs were undamaged.
During this phase, TAT evaluates the state of hotel and resort accommodations to determine which ones are in good condition and prepared to resume operations after being affected by a tsunami tidal wave attack.
In our opinion, TAT responded promptly to the unexpected crisis outlined in Phase I of the Andaman recovery plan. The evaluation conducted after the crisis enabled TAT to gauge the tourism capacity that remained in each affected area. Consequently, the tourism flow in the southern part of Thailand did not come to a complete halt. TAT also estimated the income loss to be around 10 million baht per month, which served as motivation for stakeholders to swiftly restore the necessary infrastructure in order to once again support domestic and international tourism.
The successful evaluation of Phase I will result in the effective planning of Phase II. This phase includes analyzing TAT’s recovery plan, which has been helpful in dispelling rumors and negative perceptions about 6 provinces of Thailand that tourists from around the world have. TAT’s presentation of facts on their official website and other media platforms has played a crucial role in rebuilding trust among tourists and investors.
During Phase II, which started recently and will conclude in March, our main goals are to rebuild tourist facilities and infrastructure that were destroyed. Additionally, we aim to promote the unaffected areas by implementing special campaigns targeted towards global tourists. It is crucial to showcase the reality of the situation in these provinces through these campaigns, as certain news reports may generate rumors and images of heavily affected regions can deter tourists. Consequently, these promotional campaigns will play a significant role in encouraging tourists to revisit these destinations.
However, Phase II and Phase III do not coincide on when the development should commence. We believe that restoration and development should occur simultaneously. In practical terms, we are confident that the combined efforts of restoration and promotion in Phase II, along with the natural beauty of the coastal areas, will attract former tourists and entice new ones to visit this destination.
In order to support the consequence of heavy promotional campaigns, we believe that certain actions in phase III should be initiated and progressed simultaneously with the restoration and promotion of phase II.
Examples of these actions include zoning, rule and regulation, and training.
Before the increase in tourist numbers, it is important to carry out these four actions. The recovery plan aims to position the province as a new model for Thai coastal tourism. Delaying development until after tourists arrive may be too late and less effective. The local people who were affected by the tsunami cannot wait until phase III to start earning a livelihood.
In order for the plan to be successful and for the objectives to be achieved in each phase, it is essential to have effective cooperation and communication among stakeholders, including the local government, private sectors, and local people. The government should clearly assign responsibilities to each participating group and closely monitor the progress of their assigned tasks to ensure adherence to the plan.
The Dark Side Of Relationships
Why do women stay with men who beat and rape them? Why don’t they leave? Why do they remain in abusive relationships even as the violence escalates?Most women have at least one dependant who must be taken care of, many are not employed, their parents are either distant or unable or unwilling to help. She may lack the access to cash; she or the children may be in poor health, may face a decline in the living standard for herself and her children. Many older children may resent this decision. She may believe that she will be charged with desertion or losing the children and cash assets if she leaves. Some battered women have an ideology that may include: she does not believe in divorce, marriage is forever, till death do us part. They may believe that it is crucial to the children for them to have a mother and a father, no matter how terrible the father is, and she believes that she can put up with anything for the childrens safety. She may be emotionally dependent on the man, having never relied upon herself for the simplest decision. The abuser may have managed to isolate her from her friends and family and she therefore feels that she has no one to turn to. She may feel responsible for his behavior and try to change herself, therefore giving herself a very low self-esteem. Since abuse comes in cycles, she believes that he is basically good and this time he has changed. (23)Battered women understand that there is something wrong with men who alternately hurt them and then nurture them, though they do not know what causes this. They seem to think if they love them enough, give up enough, or submit to enough, that they will somehow be able to change the batterer’s behavior. Battered women are trained to accept responsibility for the abuser’s outburst. She is trained to make excuses for his imperfections; e.g. if she was a better wife he would not want to hit her.
First, lets define abuse, battering, and psychological abuse. According to West Virginia Sate Law it is defined as: The occurrence of one or more of the following acts between family members who reside together or who formerly resided together:Battering is not just physical aggression. Rather, Battering constitutes the systematic use of violence and the threat of violence in order to control, subjugate, and intimidate women. Without feat, there can be no battering. Psychological Abuse is defined as verbal degradation denial of powers, isolation monopolizing perceptions, occasional indulgences and threats to kill. (23)1.Attempting to cause or intentionally, knowingly, or recklessly causing bodily injury with or without a dangerous or deadly weapon.
2.Placing, by physical menace, another in fear or imminent serious bodily injury.
3.Sexually abusing a person under the age of 18 years.
Now let’s discuss how small girls are raised in society. They are raised to accept men’s temper tantrums without allowing it to diminish their love for their mate. They are raised to believe that men are imperfect and that they must put up with any and every imperfection that man may have or lose any chance of getting love in return.
In 1995, domestic violence increased by 6.8 %, over 1994 reports. Law enforcement agencies investigated 9,267 (96.5%) of these complaints. Of the complainants who were victims, 1,005 (11.5%) were male and an astounding 7,784 (88.5%) were female and 3,371 (35.1%) of them had filed a previous complaint. Repeated abuse victims suffered 2 homicides. 2,750 simple assaults and 75 felonious assaults. Protection Orders were violated in 125 (1.3-%) cases.
VICTIM OFFENDER8,377 females (87.3%)1,050 females (10.9%)1,221 males(12.7%)8,545 males (89.1%)The US Justice Department estimates that there were 500,000 incidents in the United States in 1993. There were 45,000 marital rapes or sexual assaults included in this number. (15)Domestic Violence accounts for 11.7% of the emergency room visits for women who are currently with a partner, although 27% report a history of domestic abuse. 81% of the women who had attempted suicide had a history of domestic violence. (15)29% of all female murder victims were slain by their husbands or boyfriends in 1993 study. (15)21% of stalkers had been prior intimates of the victims. (15)The average offender was 32, while the youngest was 10 and the oldest was 99. (15)The average victim was 30, the youngest was 1 and the oldest was 89. Average response time was 14.62 minutes. (15)Wife abuse was the most common type of abuse reported with 48.1% of these reported in 1995, most were reported on a Sunday with 18.0% and in the hot summer month of August with 10.7%. (7)Statistics closer to home include the Kingwood Detachment of the WV State Police received 14 complaints, they investigated 13 of them, 12 of them had a previous compliant against them. The sadness of the situation is that only 4 were arrested, 2 were referred and 8 they did not really do anything with. (7)The Sheriffs Department of Preston County received 17 complaints, but they only investigated 10 of these. Still of these 10, none were arrested and 15 were referred to counseling. (7)The Kingwood City Police department investigated all 9 of their cases. Two were prior complaints; they arrested 7 of these and referred only two of them to counseling. (7)Of the 10,859 reported cases in 1995, only 31.2% were arrested while 66.4% were referred to counseling, the other 15.2% were in essence talked to by the officer and promised to never do it again; a promise that an abuser cannot keep. (7)90.5% (7,039) used their hands or fists to abuse the victim, 1.7% (136) used a gun and 4.7% (368) used a club, and 3.0% used knives. (7)There were 7,587 simple assaults in West Virginia in 1995, 206 felonious assaults, 27 homicides, and 1,774 other extents of abuse. (7)Women learn to recognize cues that a battering incident is on its way; a certain look in the eyes, a change of facial expressions, a change in voice, or a change in the conversation the usually takes place in the home and the tension gets to an all time high. Family violence researchers have developed a list of severe violence risk markers for identifying battering potential by men. In addition to living below the poverty level, the men are unemployed or lower skilled, use drugs; have a different religion than their partner; saw their father hit their mother; are not married to but live with their partner; have some high school education; are between 18 and 30; or their partners use severe violence toward children at home.
An analysis of severe husband-to-wife domestic violence indicates that husbands who were sober during the incident tend to blame their wives for the violence while husbands consuming alcohol tend to assume responsibility. (15)Only about 20% of the abusers are violent outside the home (1). Batterers seem to have “Dr. Jeckyl / Mr. Hyde” personalities. The behavior inside the home is extreme, seeming to swing from sweet, kind and loving to what seems to be the devil himself quickly. However, unlike true psychopaths, they do know shame and remorse at their “bad” behavior but seem to be unable and /or unwilling to control it.
You are more likely to be physically assaulted, beaten and killed in your own home at the hands of a loved one than anyplace else or anyone else in our society. Children are more likely to be kidnapped by their own parent than by a stranger. (20)One third to one-half of all American women are battered or abused by their husbands or lovers. (5, 13)A woman is abused in the U.S. every 18 seconds. One in six wives reported being struck by their husbands. One in 22 woman is the victim of physical abuse each year. Their husbands beat up six in 1,000. Two in 1,000 have husbands or partners who have used guns or knives against them. (5, 15, 16, 17, 18)The average battered wife is attacked three times a year.
Three out of ten teenaged boys believe there is nothing wrong with a man hitting a woman.
One-fourth of teenage girls and one-third of teenage boys believe it is okay for a husband to hit his wife. One in four wives and 1/3 of husbands believe that a couple slapping one another is normal, necessary and good.
Twice as many boys as girls believe hitting a woman is not good but sometimes necessary. To prove this point, a group of college students developed three skits to perform in malls, the first; two young men fighting, the second; two young girls fighting, and the third; a man and a woman fighting. The results were frightening. People stopped the two young boys from fighting, they also stopped the two young girls from fighting; however, no one even tried to stop the man and the woman from fighting. Comments such as ” I wonder what she did to deserve that?” and “I’ll bet she deserves that.” and “I wonder what she did to get herself into that situation? The students were dumbfounded, they performed the skits several times over, and each time the responses were the same. This would lead me to believe that people think domestic violence is appropriate and acceptable behavior.
The “typical” batterer has a poor self-image and low self-esteem. He will blame his behavior on the woman for some imagined infraction of “his’ rules. He believes males are supreme and lord of their homes and his court is his family to do as he sees fit with. He believes no one has the right to come into his home and tell him how to raise his family, or how to do things. He believes his way is the only way to do anything.
The batterer often uses “kinky” or violent sexual behavior in order to become aroused or maintain his arousal. In his heart he believes his acts of violence are excusable and should go unpunished and he does not expect his violence will get out of conscious control.
The batterer sometimes will wake a woman up from a sound sleep to initiate an acute battering incident; deprivation of sleep is one of the batterer’s forms of controlling the woman.
The sadistic behavior of the batterer includes threats to damage or destroy people or favored things of the woman. They have been known to hold pets as hostage as a means of control. Psychological manipulation may include public humiliation, ridicule, criticism, verbal abuse, jealousy, therefore making the woman want to stay in away from here friends and family which in turn causes depression and is dangerous to the woman because she is cut off from the very people who might be able to help her. The batterer will tell the woman that everyone is against her and turn everything around that people say so that she believes this myth.
Stress occurring outside the home is often brought into the home- unemployment, trouble with police, trouble with friends or people at work. Privacy is the most important element in the abusive situation. There is no one there to stop it or interfere.
Violence occurs because the home is conducive to violent exchanges.
The greater stress individuals are under, the more likely they are to be violent to their children.
The typical battered woman: Is considered to be battered if she is subjected to repeatedly to coercive behavior: be it physical, sexual, and/or psychological: by a man attempting to force he to do what he wants her to do, regardless of her own desires, rights or best interest. Has low self -esteem. Has low self-image. Suffers great guilt at not being able to control or stop the abuser’s behaviors. Lives with great denial of her own fears and rage, this denial enables her to function on a daily basis. Appears to be passive, but can be strong often manipulating people and objects in her environment, at least enough to avoid being killed. Suffers continual stress. Suffers psychosomatic ailments and depression. Extremely isolated. Desperately believes she and her actions can alone stop the abuser’s behavior.
Battering knows no social, economic, racial or cultural lines. Nearly 50% of all women have been battered at one time; fear of poverty keeps women in the relationship (1).
As long as men consider women as property, and as long as that view is supported by the law, some of them will feel free to abuse, damage, and destroy their women as they see fit.
Battered women have sought restraining orders and all too often found such orders offer little deterrence to a violent man. Family members are more likely to use violence in the home when they think the costs of being violent is less than the rewards. The absence of effective social control over family relations decreases the cost of one family member being violent toward another. Certain social and family structures reduce the family relations and reduce costs and increase the rewards of being violent. THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCEOnce the cycle of violence has started, it is almost impossible to stop.
Violence does not occur all the time nor does it occur in a random way. There seems to be a pattern that starts out slowly with some tension build up, then there is an explosion of anger, possible beating, then the third stage where the man either stops the violence, is kind, loving, contrite, and apologizes to the woman, or kills the woman.
Then the cycle starts all over again, if he has not killed the woman. This does considerable damage to the woman’s state of mind.
During this tension-building stage, minor-battering (slaps, punches, controlled verbal abuse, and psychological warfare) may occur. The woman’s attempts to calm the batterer by either staying out of his way or being extremely kind, loving and compliant. More than anything, she wants to prevent the violence from growing into something more dangerous. This is really a double-edged sword because of her docile behavior, the abuser believes he has the right to abuse her in the first place.She may go to incredible lengths to try to stop the danger level. She will cover for him in hopes of winning his favor, make excuses for his bad behavior, and isolate herself from anyone who may have been able to help her.
As the cycle progresses, her attempts to placate him become less effective and each partner senses a loss of control over the situation. This adds fuel to the fire and the psychological anguish is at its worst. Waiting for the big explosion, some women will provoke an incident just to get it over with, to release the tension. The woman will withdraw emotionally. Angry with her for her emotional unavailability, the batterer becomes more abusive and oppressive. Soon an acute battering incident occurs.
The acute stage is set apart from the minor stage in that it is often more destructive, more uncontrollable and the violence has escalated to the point of rampage, brutal injury and sometimes death. In this stage only the batterer can put an end to the violence.
The woman will distance herself from the attack and from the pain although later she may remember each detail precisely. Like other survivors of trauma and disaster it may be days or months before severe depression and/or emotional collapse set in. There is a sane rationale behind the woman’s seemingly passive behavior in the face of acute violence. Most batterers are stronger and physically larger than the woman is. She knows from past experiences that it is useless to fight back. Anyone attempting to interfere, (even a strong man) is likely to get hurt. Police do not like to respond to domestic calls for the above-mentioned reason, so calling them would seem futile to the woman. Also, 90% of battered women who call for police intervention, actually do sign the warrant for the abuser, but of the 10% who do, only 1% of these cases ever get prosecuted.
When this phase of the cycle ends, then starts the third stage, the honeymoon stage. This is the most damaging stage to the woman’s psyche. It is the tranquil period where the batterer is warm, loving, nurturing toward the woman. He promises to never let it happen again and begs forgiveness. The woman may join in on the illusion of bliss (1). She convinces herself that he will change, that he won’t ever do it again, once because of the fear of poverty without him. This kind man is the one she loves the man she married. She believes she is the sole support of the batterer’s emotional stability and sanity; his only link to the normal world. She feels responsible for his well being. The truth is without professional help and the true desire to change; there is very little chance anything will change, ever.
It is in the honeymoon stage that the most severe psychological damage is done. The illusion of interdependency is firmly solidified, for he is dependent on her forgiveness and she on him for his caring behavior. Underneath the cycle of tension, violence and forgiveness that makes theirs a truly terrifying love, each partner believes death is preferable to separation (1). Neither believe they are capable of surviving without the other, for the abuser will instill in the woman that he will have a nervous breakdown, kill himself, (actually only 10% of the abusers will go through with this threat), become a drunk or loose his job if she leaves.
Many battered women believe suicide is the only way to get out of an abusive relationship. It is a fact that more women die at the hands of their abusive partners then husbands die at the hands of their wives (1).
When professional intervention does not occur, battering relationships escalate to the point of suicide or homicide. There are six million crime victims annually, according to the U.S. Department of Justice. The cruel irony of staying at home because of fear in the streets is that the offenders are not strangers climbing through windows, but they are the loved ones who live within our homes with us. You are more likely to be physically assaulted, beaten, or killed in your own home than anywhere else and by a family member, not a stranger (3).
BATTERED WOMAN SYNDROMEThe battered woman syndrome (BWS) is a summary term for the many social, psychological, economic, and physical variables threat tend to hold women in abusive relationships for extended periods of time. Learned helplessness arises in oppressive relationships from which the victims cannot easily escape. If some battered women appear to have been taught by their batterers to be helpless, it is probably a signal that they have not yet been taught how to resist their negative indoctrination and how to force abusers to become more egalitarian without necessarily having to leave them or kill them.
The theory of learned helplessness is how people lose the ability to predict whether their natural responses will protect them after they experience inescapable pain in what appears to be random and variable situations.
The process of learned helplessness results in a state with deficits in three specific areas: how battered women think, how they feel and the way they behave, e.g. when the battered woman perceives she is danger, she is likely to respond using the most predictable method of protecting herself. Sometimes that means using deadly force, other times it means a total withdraw, emotionally, from the situation.
IDENTIFYING LEARNED HELPLESSNESS:If the child witnessed or experienced abuse in the home, was sexually molested or abused as a child or teenager, had critical periods which the child experienced noncontigent control, e.g. early parent loss, alcoholism in the family, frequent moves, stereotyped sex roles socialization, supporting rigid traditional roles, and suffered health problems or chronic illnesses, they are likely to experience learned helplessness.
In adulthood: If the woman has experienced a pattern of violence, has been sexual assaulted, has a partner whose jealousy, overpossessiveness and intrusiveness isolates the woman, has been threatened to be hurt or killed by the abusive partner, has experienced psychological torture, knows the man has the capacity and the ability to kill or torture because of seeing it preformed on animals, children or inanimate objects that belong to the woman and may have sentimental value to the woman, and finally if the man or woman use drugs or alcohol. These factors somehow teach the woman that she can not do anything, nor can she have anything of value without the man destroying it so she therefore relies on him for even the most basic need (1). POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER:People tend to develop certain psychological symptoms that continue to affect their ability to cope with life after the original trauma occurs. Battered women tend to believe that there is nothing she can do to bring a positive effect. She no longer feels she can predict the outcome of a response she would make would be good or bad she therefore chooses only responses that may protect her.
AFTER THE ABUSE, PUTTING THE PIECES TOGETHER Women need emotional support, counseling and good friends to deal with the abuse and to get back on track. Counseling is especially important in order for the woman to not get another abusive man. Through worksheets and talking with other abused women she can learn how to undo the brainwashing that has been done to her. It is important for the woman to know that she does indeed have rights and what they are.
BILL OF RIGHTS FOR ABUSED WOMENThe right to be successful.
The right to compete.
The right to set your own priorities.
The right to be treated with respect and not be taken for granted.
The right to have and express your own feelings and opinions and have them taken seriously.
The right to ask for what you want.
The right to ask for information from professional.
The right to say no without feeling guilty.
The right to get what you pay for.
The right to make mistakes.
The right to take time for my own leisure.
The right to your own body.
The right to change your mind.
The right to choose not to assert yourself.
The right to be treated with respect.
The right to be listened to and taken seriously.
The right to determine your own lifestyle.
She must also get her self esteem back, and in order to do that she must again know what she is entitled to.
I am the one in charge of my life.
I am a worthwhile woman.
I deserve to be treated with respect.
I can decide for myself what is best for me.
I am not the cause of anothers violent behavior.
I can identify my needs and wants, ideals and goals, through meditation, contemplation, or prayer.
I can and will terminate relationships that drag me down.
Every day I will: Forgive myself and others for failure.
Thank God for guidance and blessingsCredit myself for my achievements.
Thank others for the help theyve given me.
Laugh at myself when I do something foolish.
Talk and share with people I trust.
Tell people how much I love them.
I AM NOT ALONE. I CAN ASK OTHERS FOR HELP!!!Although these may seem irrational to a person not in an abusive relationship, they are of utmost importance to a woman who has had most of her rights taken away from her by an abusive partner. She needs to know that these are rights and feelings that even children are entitled to. It takes time and caring and stamina for the woman to claim her rights, but when she does, she may realize what she has missed out of life. She will slowly come to realize that the man manipulated her entire life. Her family is still there for her, the same with her friends. When she takes the glasses off, she will be seeing the world through her own eyes for the first time in perhaps years. (17,18) WHERE TO GET HELP OR INFORMATIONLOCALLYRape and Domestic Violence Information CenterMorgantown, WV 292-5100Kingwood, WV 329-1687Grafton, WV 265-6534West Virginia Domestic Violence Hotline(800) 352 6513West Virginia Coalition Against Domestic ViolenceP.O. Box 85181B Main StreetSutton, WV 26601-0085(304) 765-2250(800) 352-6513 (crisis line)NATIONALLYNational Counsel on Child Abuse and Family Violence1155 Connecticut Ave, NW, Suite 400Washington, DC 20036(800) 222-2000National Victim Center309 West 7th Street, Suite 705Fort Worth, TX 76102(800) FYI-CALLNational Resource Center on Domestic Violence6400 Flank Drive, Suite 1300Harrisburg, PA 17112(800) 537-2238National Institute of Justice/NCJRSBox 6000Rockville, MD 20850(800) 851-3420Annual Editions, CRIMINAL JUSTICE, 1995-96, The Dushkin Publishing Inc, Guilford, CTAnnual Editions, PSYCHOLOGY, 1995-96, The Dushkin Publishing Inc. Guilford, CT.
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